What's your attachment style?
How you reach for closeness, and what you do when it feels uncertain.
Your style, where you sit on both dimensions, and a full report: how you love, what triggers you and how to self-soothe. Free.
For self-understanding. Not a clinical assessment.
The four attachment styles
Attachment theory, first developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, describes the patterns we bring to close relationships. Adult attachment is usually measured on two dimensions: how much you worry about closeness, and how much you avoid it. Where you land on both gives four broad styles.
Secure
You can be close without losing yourself, and you trust that connection can survive a hard conversation. You show up consistently and expect the same. Closeness feels like rest, not risk.
Anxious
You love deeply and stay alert to any sign of distance. Silence can feel louder to you than it does to others. You give generously and notice small shifts quickly. You feel safest when love is spoken out loud.
Avoidant
You value independence and feel safest when you can handle things on your own. You show care through actions and reliability more than words or constant contact.
Fearful-avoidant
You want closeness and also fear it, so you may pull people in and then step back. You feel love intensely and test whether it's safe before you trust it.
Styles are tendencies, not fixed traits. They can shift with experience, with a steady relationship, and with work in therapy.
About this quiz
What are the four attachment styles?
Secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful-avoidant. They come from two dimensions: how much you worry about closeness, and how much you avoid it.
Is this a clinical test?
No. It's a short reflective quiz written by Solacely to help you notice patterns. For a clinical assessment, talk to a licensed professional.
Can attachment style change?
Research suggests it can shift over time, especially through steady, safe relationships and self-awareness.